Thanks, Coach. Yeah, I am moving past my anger even though I am taking a lot of crap. Of course, I am imperfect in this and have weak moments. I have started exercising regularly and have made lists of things I am grateful for. I will read up on compassion.
Boundries. She wanted to discuss a possible investment. I stated I am only willing to participate on certain conditions(and listed the conditions). The consequences of failing to honor the boundries would be that she would not achieve what she wants. Now, you may have a different take but I think this was pretty good. It goes right to the heart of cake eating. If you want this, then you must do this. You can't have it all your way and expect me to be involved. Well, she didn't like it one little bit. Much seething anger was thrown at me. I was being unreasonable, it would be too compicated, yadda, yadda yadda. I offered ways to simplify the problem without compromising my boundary or the consequences. I should have walked away, but didn't instead I stayed and took a lot of crap and tried to offer alternatives. She wanted none of it. The more I proposed creative alternatives, the more entrenched she got. I found this interesting.
