This morning it was "You didn't tell me the workmen were coming today" and "You didn't take the garbage out". Jeez, I had a few things on my mind and I forgot these vital details.(See previous post). I didn't react to either of these statements just said sorry, it must have slipped my mind. Seething anger.
Next time, try saying "You're right. I'm a horrible husband. How could I forget such a thing? God, I'm terrible."
As for the rest, she's simply re-writing your marital history. Get used to it -- there'll be more. EVERYTHING will now be your fault. The marriage. The sex life. Hell, the war in Iraq will now be pinned on you, as well as global warming (or is it cooling now? or is it "climate change"???).
I'm a little fuzzy on the boundary thing, as this is horribly confusing:
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The consquence of not honoring the boundry were constructed to use her weight against her. I made it clear that failing to honor the boundry would result in her not being in a position to achieve her goals. In a direct sense, the consequences cut to the core of the cake eating. In other words, it is her desire to have her cakee and eat it to that prevent her from having what she wants.
Just what WERE your boundaries, and what were the consequences if she crossed them?
