If you don't lose your anger your will fail at reconciliation. Start by exercising, making a list of all you are grateful for then read up on compassion.
Another suggestion is to look up "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
