I'm kind of dissapointed in the morale of some responses, not very in the spirit of saving marriages. I know this woman. I only spent more than a decade with her day in and day out.
Day-by-Day,
We all knew our women. I had been married to mine for 22 years, and had four children with her, when I swore up and down to everyone on the old SSM forum who was trying to warn me: SHE IS NOT HAVING AN AFFAIR. If anything, she is asexual. She doesn't have the time. I know my wife. All of it. Then I got the keylogger showing me she was, indeed, having an affair with a 27 year old guy who still lived with his parents.
Please don't lecture us on the spirit of saving marriages. We all come here -- some of us despite our own marriages having already been saved and we want to give something back, and some of us having lost our marriages (but finding themselves), and wanting to help others avoid the pain of what we went through.
All we can do is call 'em as we see 'em. But you clearly don't want to hear it, and I really don't want to beat you up, so I'll just wish you well and hope that I was wrong.
