Well, I set some boundries last night. We had the money talk. She actually wants me to assume responsibility for 100% of the debt and none of the benefit! She got very angry and disrespectful immediately after I stated my position. The consquence of not honoring the boundry were constructed to use her weight against her. I made it clear that failing to honor the boundry would result in her not being in a position to achieve her goals. In a direct sense, the consequences cut to the core of the cake eating. In other words, it is her desire to have her cakee and eat it to that prevent her from having what she wants. It led to threats to leave sooner, etc.(this is somewhat of an empty threat since she is already checked out). I certainly was assertive and confident. I got things like you are not my friend, when did you become such a jerk, can you recommend a lawyer to me, etc. (She is going to talk to a lawyer about negotiating with me on this issue and find out if she can accomplish her goals without my help.) Needless to say many Angry, hateful words were cast upon me. She even berated me and threatened to leave because I have been distant the last couple of weeks. She asked for space! I gave it to her, now she wants to hold that against me too! Unreal! I tried to remain detached but it did get the better of me I must confess. However, I always came back to my center and held firm to my boundries. This infuriated her.
I wonder if this is a MLC? Frankly, I don't see much hope at this point.
