Divorced and want to reconcile...

[dday101798]

How do you think I should have reacted? Not said anything at all? or how I should rephrase things?

You should have reacted as a LBS. No accusations! If you need to get something across to him, you need to follow the book and change up certain wordings as it makes A WORLD of difference to the message.

Instead of: "I really hate it when you aren't showing any interest towards my (our) daughter"

Try: "It would be very nice of you and appreciated if you could show more interest in my (our) daughter"

Also, removal of certain key derrogatvie words: "never" and "always". This is all in the book and I really think you need to brush up on how to speak to your XH, and quickly! You are now pushing him away. He is uncertain of his interest in you as it is!

Now, some have suggested in my thread that I have turned a blind eye to my XW's WAS tactics. I have questioned time and time again why certain things to how my XW acts and carries on is not a-typical WAW, and never got answers. Thus, what is happening now, I believe is the real deal. Xw's tone has competely changed. And through that tone, she is doing EXACTLY as I describe to you above. Hell, it's almost like she is DB'ing me now. And to the extent, that is true. I don't have chose her, I don't have to take her back. And she is doing a VERY GOOD job right now not to say certain key words, or do more than brush certain key subjects that will do nothing more than make me question why I'd want to even concider wanting to be with a person who did soooo much damage to me.

Tread carefuly grasshopper. Get the book out and read how to communicate!!!!