well, who knows what he will return to. you just be consistent. and write down boundaries for yourself, and what you will do about them. write them down so you can go to them and remember them and do them.
and about him balancing his emotions...well, I don't think he does a very good job! lol he's an emotional roller coaster!
I'm glad you guys had fun together...definitely better than fighting, that's for sure. and try to make the holidays as pleasant as possible, no matter what he does, so although he's being all nicey, don't expect it. don't expect anything, so you are not let down during christmas.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I also wonder if its just the holiday blues and after xmas is over if he will go back to normal.
I'm not sure it's healthy for you to be spending too much time with him, no matter how nice it is, until the above isn't an issue. You're admitting you don't think him being nice ect is normal, I just don't want you to get hurt come mid January.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
I thought about this alot last night. It may be the holiday blues and for that I need to keep my emotions in check. I think I am feeling them too. I love the holidays (or I used to) and the whole family thing. To get a glimpse of it was nice.
Baby's dedication is Sunday. I know exh is very nervous. He hasn't been in church in years and I imagine living the life he has lived makes him feel really guilty.
He makes his life so hard.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Wow...he is saying all the right things, but thank goodness for the emails I can see. My only saving grace.
Evidently he hasn't gotten it through his thick head yet that having mulitple women backfires on you at some point in a small town.
Married girl friend heard that he was seeing someone else and confronted him via email. He said he had no idea who she was...bold face lie because this woman has been in and out of his life since before me. He got angry and defensive, tried to turn it on her, she got mad blah blah blah. By last night he was saying how much she meant to him but he needed his space. He ought to write a book!
Going shopping AGAIN today! I can't seem to finish. I have a few little things to get then hopefully I can be pretty much done.
I made myself, my mom, exmil, and exh this photo book of baby in 2009 for Xmas. That will be exh's xmas gift from baby.
I will be interested to see what the pastor says on Sunday at baby's dedication. Usually he talks about how the christian marriage raises the baby together, etc. Guess he will have to get creative in our situation.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Oh...and I have been following the Tiger Woods disaster. How sad. That poor wife and kids. I really hope he truly feels remorse and makes a true amends with his wife. What I don't understand is how the media is making the wife out to be crazy? Yeah, chasing him with a golf club is pretty scary, but I totally remember those emotions and the devastation you feel when you find out your spouse has been unfaithful. Its real easy to lose it.
But like I said I really hope Tiger does the right thing and does the work to make his marriage good again. He will definately be a role model to other spouses.
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Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Thanks Puppy...Yes, those poor kids. Any kids who have to live thru infidelity/divorce I have a soft spot for.
Ok, I am weakening bad. Today when exh came by I started looking at him again thinking how nice it would be to have sex with him! OH NO! Its been 19 months since I have done that...lets just hope I am thinking that way because of my dry spell/drought!
Gotta stay away from him. Gotta stay busy.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Yeah...but exh is probably the worst choice. I wouldn't mentally be able to take it. He would be fine and continue to cake eat.
Cannot think that way. Ive lived this long without. I can continue
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
You horn-dog you! 
