? Right time for H to come home

[peacetoday]

I would give a generic birthday card
or something from the kids from the whole family
you hand it to him on the birthday out celebration On the 13th,
I would not call/text him at all on his birthday
I always kept everything stable for the kids
daddy is busy
daddy love you
Daddy has so things he needs to work thru
Relationships dont aleways last forever
we can pray for him
God is father of the house now
I think this helped my kids
later in the crises I told them Daddy was sick
he is on medication
It is apparent anyway that he is nuts
I always said he loved them and its not their fault
they seem to be ok
Both thriving and good in school
No problems yet anyway
keep everything stable
let H go be upbeat and cordial no questions--validate him
find new activities church friends dancing reading gym ect
you are doing well