@Coach: She didn't really tell you how you should feel did she? Call her immediately on that BS if she did.
@TrentC: ..seriously? That was the essence of the conversation?
@aliveandkicking: 2x4- WTF are you doing spending that much time taking to her when you are so cognizant that she is irrational. THAT is the boundary violation and you're cosigning, why?
-------------------
You know, at the end of the day I just don't have the energy for this right now. It was easier to just let her go and get whatever it is out of her system that she wanted to get out. It's not like I was going to convince her of my POV, right? She knew what she was doing, she knew it was a boundary violation (though she complained about it in reverse), and for whatever reason -- angst, anger, pure cussedness -- she wanted to make me hear it.
Okay, fine. I can watch teevee and listen with half-an-ear and murmur the occasional "uh-huh" and "I hear you say" and "when you're right you're right."
A colleague who's been there and done that just suggests I treat her like I would treat any other patient from Bellevue and smile and tolerate and nod and not provoke.
If she doesn't know what my POV is now, she's never going to know.
She went to an IC appointment this evening -- her first "real" counseling session -- so no point in rocking the boat now. We'll see if this helps her level out and come to grips with the fact that I get to determine my feelings and evaluations and understandings within the context of the divorce, whether she likes them or not.
No more man-to-man; I'm switching to zone.
Don't hate me for this, but I still don't totally get the "why" as far as the amount of time you indulge her behavior...you think she'll purge it all out somehow?
How long would you spend with a patient from Bellevue?
The first bold is just too hard to read...I can't stand the idea that she either a) made you hear it or b) thinks she made you hear it. Yuck.
However, if you've got an agenda, a goal, some path you're on with this that I'm not getting, forgive me for not catching it. I would love to understand. Of course, I'm here to help, so if I'm not helping then I wont push it.
