I just can't make decisions for my life based on decisions ow has made for hers.
Um, H had a hand in this decision too, don't forget that. But, you say you want to work on the M, and become a team. You should give it a go, if you feel you have to. Only you know what is best for you.
Take care and good luck!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim