he came back down after the movie and wanted to talk to me. told me that he knows that I won't believe anything he says and that I have good reason to but that it's over between him and this girl. He apologized for making a stupid mistake and wished he hadn't done it. He said that he was just messing around with her like me and her have been going back and forth.
There is a way for you to trust him; it's called transparency.
* You get the passwords to any and all email accounts that he has, and can check at any time. * He drafts an email that you get to read and watch him send, telling her to not contact him any more. * He has to leave his mobile phone unlocked and let you look at the call and msg history whenever you want. * You can call him at any time you want to check on his whereabouts. * You get to open any phone bills or anything that will show a call or msg history, in case he feels like tidying up on his phone.
If he doesn't agree to that, or violates the terms of this agreement, then he is toast. He violated your trust and his commitment to you. That's something that can be rebuilt, but the key word is rebuilt. It will take time and effort on his part to get you to trust him again, and that's part of the work of rebuilding the relationship.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
