Truefully I believe that the detachment starts when the seperation begins and one has to process the thoughts.
Before hand they get caught up in the excitment of the unspeakable.
They do not get the chance to process the loss of the love. They replace it. Remember not all affairs are due to a long term walk away. Some times they just happen. Its still a death of 1000 cuts but it happens quick. Over a span of 2 to 5 weeks. Which in life is nothing. Think back to when you started to date your wife. Its nothing. We know this.... But they are clouded. Its an intense love, quick, dirty and dangerous. Best not to compete. But it is still love. I know it hurts. I hurt everyday. But it is not a true love. One that grows openly. One that is helped along by friends and family. One that is honest and grows from friendship freely offered without fear of offending anyone. Its open its honest.
WAS has walked away. But they have not had the chance to process these thougths alone like LBS. We were replaced. One day they may wake up and look across the bed and determine that they have the same problems but a diffferent partner. Us LBS. Well were Fuc)(Dd and we decide that we need to get them back. So we decide to embrace our flaws and learn and teach ourselves to be better lovers, partners, friends, listeners, and parents. We heal and move on.
One day WAS come's back. This is the point where we determine what we became in this journey. If indoubt reread the previous paragraph.
I have found this week rather hard. Funny how 2 emails and 1 phone call can do one in. But I am glad that after all this time I still love my wife. And I have patience. Its been 6 months. And she has 4 months left... and sorry P17 for stealing your thread. But hell thats what friends do.
P.S. thats a cute picture of you and your daughter.