here we go again

[bluerain]

You know one of the things that I seriously considered doing was renting a storage unit in H's name, filling it, and having the bill sent to him. It would have cost me $50 or so, but it would have gotten the situation taken care of. Maybe that could be part of your boundary. "You have until dec 9 to get your things, or I will put them into storage for you, and have them bill you."

I agree that if he really wants to come back and be involved with the family as a whole, or just the kids, he will be able to figure out how to make it happen, or at least ask you what you need him to do!