unadjusted, you said: "I even sometimes get thoughts that I was "tricked" into marrying her. She used to care about her looks, had lost a bunch of weight, did healthy things, and couldn't get enough sex."
I have read about other men feeling tricked into marriage, and I was always curious to hear more about this. Can you explain the timelines, how long you knew each other, how much you knew of her history in relationships and in her health/fitness life, before you got married? Did you discuss your future mutual goals of being healthy together before you got married or engaged? Please expand on this issue so we can possibly help you more.
Overall, your situation doesn't sound that bad, seems that maybe you two just don't know each other that well and you need a way to get closer. This can be done, we can help.
