Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[mindfull]

Puppy, she finally admitted to him that she was going. She told him she couldn't afford another ticket, and then told him that she was going with her GF and her 15yos.

Good Lord! Then, don't go W! She's mean. She's selfish. She needs one of your DB girlbuds to smack her.

S12's are the sweetest there are.

GOD

[Super Girl]

[ She's mean. She's selfish. She needs one of your DB girlbuds to smack her.

Yep. Yep. Yep.

[bluerain]

Oh man, she just keeps getting better and better.

Mindfull, I think that my ex is realizing that it sucks to be him too- SD, I think that its really common for WAS to really regret their actions. Maybe not leaving the marriage, but the terrible things that they do in the process will haunt them for a long, long time.

[SoldierDad]

Well, my S12, is just like me, wears his heart on his sleeve, wants to be a Soldier just like dad, etc. I hurt for him. I hurt for both my S. W is starting to pi$$ me off. I am starting to really dislike her, and her behavior towards my boys. I just keep telling myself that it is only a few more months. I just hope my kids can hang on. I know kids are resilient, but when their own M lies to them, what are they to think? What kind of message does that send? Can I repair the damage she is doing? I have always been the stable one, and I will continue to do so. I am going to fight tooth and nail to keep full custody of my boys. I am documenting everything I know. I am starting to hate her...

[SoldierDad]

I feel like sending her a text saying look around you-see all those kids?, one of them could of been your own son - having the time of his life. Real classy W. Maybe not...

[SoldierDad]

I really want to send this message. I am so pissed right now. I am fuming. Shoulld I send this text? @%$&*^!!! I hate her.

[TrentC]

I really want to send this message. I am so pissed right now. I am fuming. Shoulld I send this text? @%$&*^!!! I hate her.

A good rule of thumb is to wait 48 hours; if it seems like a good idea in a couple of days, then go for it.

But it's never a good idea to do something like that based on an emotional response -- especially born out of fear, anger, or sorrow. It's never as satisfying as you might think, and will only make matters worse.

[SoldierDad]

Anyone-do I send her a text? I was thinking of something like this: W, you missed a great opportunity tonight to bond with your Son. Classy. Thoughts?

[bluerain]

I have mixed feeling about it. Part of me says yes, and part of me says no. I think that really, it will just start a big huge fight. If you do mention it, doing so while you are really upset probably wont be very productive.

Your supposed to take the high road. You need to keep that in mind when she does crap like this.

Im sorry that you and your boys are having to deal with such a vile woman. Im especially sorry for the boys.

[SoldierDad]

Thanks Trent, I haven't sent anything, I just typed it up. I was waiting to get some feedback from the board, which I already knew the answer, but needed to see a level headed persons perspective. But I am so pissed right now. I am furious at her. Is my anger that she went to the concert and it was MY favorite band, or because she lied to my son? I just think she missed a great chance to really bond with him, he has always wanted to see them, and then to lie about the age limit and that she couldn't afford another ticket is just ridiculous, he has seen DVD's of them with kids all over the place. I dunno, I feel for my boys.