Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[soleil]

I WILL persevere, I WILL endure, I WILL survive this. It is a phase, a period in my life that is not pleasant, but is manageable. I am in control of ME. I can either sit here in my own PI$$ and $HIT, or I can get off of my pity pot, and start living again. I choose to LIVE.

That's the mindset to have.
Go home, sleep in your bed, and be zen

[Puppy Dog Tails]

"Strength and honor."

Puppy

[bluerain]

Hi SD. I know that in Ak to get a D when one party refuses to participate, there has to be a separation in place for 2 years.

I havent ever been served, but, dont they have to ask you who you are? It seems like if you are expecting this you could possibly avoid it. Just dont answer any strange men who ask if you are SoldierDad! And even if she does serve you, you dont have to sign anything!

[antlers]

I WILL persevere, I WILL endure, I WILL survive this. It is a phase, a period in my life that is not pleasant, but is manageable. I am in control of ME. I can either sit here in my own PI$$ and $HIT, or I can get off of my pity pot, and start living again. I choose to LIVE.

"Get busy livin', or get busy dyin'." - Andy Dufrense

“That which does not kill us, makes us stronger” – Friedrich Nietzche

“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.” – Kenji Miyazawa

“We shall draw from the heart of suffering itself the means of inspiration and survival.” – Sir Winston Churchill

“Everything can be taken from a man but the last of the human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” - Dr. Viktor E. Frankl

[Super Girl]

"Strength and honor."

Puppy

Anyone else think...For the Horde! when they read this?

I miss WOW.

[SoldierDad]

Great advice all. Well, just woke up to my S12 calling me. W has left the building again. W lied to S12 that kids under 18 couldn't go to certain concert, then lied to him, that she wasn't going to said concert, but had t-shirt on with the bands name on it when she left the house. He told me "D, I know she is going to that concert, and I really wanted to go, M knows that that band is your favorite, and mine too, why did M lie to me?" What do I say to my S? I just told him that your M was not telling the truth. S12 has seen videos of said band, with children all over the audience. It's just sad what she is doing. My S doesn't understand all of this, and told me tonight he feels like yelling at her for the way she has been treating him. It is sad and pathetic that my 12 year old son, has better morals than my 38 year old W...

[Puppy Dog Tails]

How do you know she went just because she had a band t-shirt on? Can't you buy those LOTS of places?

[bluerain]

Oh man, Im sorry, thats pretty lousy of her. Maybe he needs to ask her why she would lie to him!

I guess that I would try to tell him not to rush to conclusions, you dont know for sure that shes lied, maybe she just wanted that shirt. You cant know for sure that she even went. And then I would document that she abandoned the boys yet again, and write down exactly what S12 said.

My question is, whats your 38 y/o wife doing going to see a kiddie band? By herself, or with a friend who is taking her kids, or what? I ended up at one of those concerts once, there was no beer garden- big mistake!

[SoldierDad]

Puppy, she finally admitted to him that she was going. She told him she couldn't afford another ticket, and then told him that she was going with her GF and her 15yos. It isn't a kiddie band, but a band that is safe to take kids to-KISS. I love KISS and my W knows this, so does my S12. I think that is why he is so hurt. He really wanted to go. I am still talking to him, and I can tell he is hurt by her actions. This straight up sucks.

[mindfull]

SD -

I have an S12. I feel for ya!

Why don't you tell him, and your other son (if you need to), to feel free to call you, but to also keep a mental note of these situations, and when you're home, you and the boys will all sit down and discuss how to handle the situations that make them uncomfortable or confused?

There's bound to be tons more!

Sucks to be her!!!

There's another poster, Smiley's Person, on here that told his STBXW once (something like). Someday you're going to realize that it sucks to be you. She is. Trust me.