Last August, Puppy nudged me into setting boundaries, with my then, still somewhat live-in H. I basically booted him out. He's been sliding downhill for a long, long time, and I was sliding with him.
Financially, now he's claiming to be going under and wants me to put my signature on a $5,000 loan from his 40lK account, which BTW, comes in the midst of our divorce as well as in the middle of slow work time for him. (He filed on 10/30 but I've yet to be served). He also claim not to have any money because of lack of work. I can't help wondering why, after all this time, he files at a time when he has "no work, and can't pay the bills." On 10/23, he sent a $350 prepaid credit card number to his long time gf/with benefits.
Ironically, I'm wavering about what to do. I know I only want to do what's best for me. He's never sat down with me. He's been mentally abusive for A LONG TIME.
Part of me still wants to meet with him and set boundaries like, "I'm here for the facts. I won't make a decision without all of them. And, if I hear one lie, all bets are off." And, then I want to be able to make my decision.
The other part of me says, "Absolutely, positively no. Let him sink in his own sh__!" But then I wonder, "Is that really the Godly thing to do?"
There's no time like the present to do the right thing.
