I feel like I'm the only one on these forums that has a WS that doesn't even bother to contact them. My WH is almost NC with me! Really, this feels hopeless. I'm fed up w the disrespect and no confession.
I had an email from W last Thursday and a 'pretend' phone call on Sunday. Other than that W hasn't contacted me at all since the NC (okay it's been two weeks). As I have ignored all contact up till now, I think I won't get any more as she may well have taken the hint (although somebody did post on my thread to say they never get it).
NC is not about them contacting you. It's about you healing and sorting yourself out. If you are using it solely as a tool to teach him a lesson or get him back it won't work.
Him not contacting you is common. He is testing you to make sure you mean what you say. You have to keep it up. Don't break it, even if you want to (and I really wanted to the last few days) as it will set you back a 100 steps and your WAH has the power back.
He wants to contact you. You want to contact him. You need to be the stronger.
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Another thing... OW's exH keeps contacting me and is flirtateous w me. I'm avoiding contact w him. Doesn't feel right.
That is wrong. Very wrong. Maybe OW put him up to this? Maybe not, but it might be something to think about.
Keep away from him completely. It will only make your efforts a lot more difficult (as you probably know).
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
