Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[pearlharbr]

Let me just say that it's sometimes VERY hard to go to counseling and hear their viewpoint about how many ways you have been a poor mate. It's like they forget all the good and fun. Don't get me wrong, some of what he said IS valid. It just makes you re-think everything you have ever said/done in the past!! On the bright side, it is making me face some areas where I need to improve.

Keep in mind that he is looking at your M through affair-colored glasses. Most of us have had the same experience, that is why it's good to remember to believe none of what they say and half of what they do.

Last September BF and I were looking at ski condos to buy and by the end of October he was miserable and had been miserable for five years. When I decided I was done with him and he wanted me back he was making lists of all the good things in our past and about us--the same things I tried to tell him months before. And yes, he did acknowledge that I had told him all those things before and that I was right, he was wrong.

No one is perfect. Yes, you made mistakes. Yes, you have things to work on for yourself. Do that to improve yourself because it's good for you. But do NOT take on all the responsibility for your current sitch.