Don't pursue reason, chase, beg, plead or implore.
No frequent phone calls.
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As a slight hijacking of this thread, I just wanted to say that I've noticed that as time goes on, a lot of people -- even relatively recent arrivals -- seem to be willing to step up and talk to newcomers.
Which I think is great. It helps create a feeling of mutual support.
And to Ruined: I'm sorry that you find yourself here, but this is a great group to help you out. You're already getting quite good advice, so take some time and feel free to ask and answer questions.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
It helps create a feeling of mutual support.