Pls help--confused and fearful

[Day by Day]

I feel like I'm the only one on these forums that has a WS that doesn't even bother to contact them. My WH is almost NC with me! Really, this feels hopeless. I'm fed up w the disrespect and no confession.

I've started to read Love Must Be Tough. Seems pretty similar to DB techniques, just stated differently. I know I need to set boundaries and quit being so passive. But my WH is controlling and possibly narsisistic. I know I need to not contact him and keep GAL and detaching.

He's controlling me with the money too. I am a stay at home mom and have been for years. I've gone back to school and don't have the $ to pay for my classes or books and hate having to ask him, but he recently got his bonus.

Another thing... OW's exH keeps contacting me and is flirtateous w me. I'm avoiding contact w him. Doesn't feel right.