Ohh, and until then, any time I would say something, "I was being dramatic trying to make him feel guilty"...
"I can see you that might make you feel guilty, but I really do feel XXXX about YYYY."
Keep it civil and to the point. No yelling.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement