Thanks, Greek. All I can do is assert the boundry and consequences and hope she honors it. In terms of additional mixed signals, she said at our last counseling session that she is not interested in any romantic relationship right now. She also said an A would risk too much in terms of growing her business(which see need me for). In an oblique sense she understands an A is a threat to our marriage. She needs to hear this in a direct sense. Nevertheless, she has not checked back into our marriage. She has been volunteering explainations about things she has done. Last night she was running late and offered a plausible explaination. I would hear in an instant if there was any deception in it. I am very perceptive when it comes to word inflection. I was dismissive of her need to explain herself. It felt pretty good.
I feel myself regaining power by limiting contact. When we do have contact, I have been very assertive in my statements but not ego bound. This should present a sharp contrast to the last few months where I have been in pursuit and please mode or resentful/angry mode. I am not angry anymore and I dont need this relationship to be happy.
Anyway, at the appropriate time, I will reiterate the boundry and establish the consequences. My true focus is being the change in myself that I want to see in my world.
