Ex probably does see me still as a parent figure. Part of the reason why I have no contact with him is that. He needs time away from me to see me in a different light.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
trusting is he not paying anything right now?? Isn't he suppose to pay something while it is all figured out!!?? OH THESE situations just are so ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
nothing, the judge said for him to wait until she makes the change. So as it stands, he owes me for November and December now.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Oh Trusting.. i am so very very sorry. What an A**!!! I mean he could give you SOMETHING!! Oh these men (and yes women!!) GOOD GRIEF!! Why do they have to be FORCED to do stuff??!! My x recently "bragged" on how he is a good provider for his "family.." ok whatever.. you SUCKED until the courts enforced what you weren't doing!!! OH MY GOSH!!!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! hope you heard that scream from me to you FOR YOU!!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Ex seems more and more confused, I mean really not thinking clearly at all. Unable to put things together at all. I finally got a copy of ex's rebuttal regarding the child support and it made absolutely no sense. It was basically a victim statement. His numbers did not match his tax returns and there is no one on earth who could follow his way of thinking. For those of you who have seen the ML'ers come out the other side, is this normal for ML? My ex just seems almost severely cognitively delayed.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I seriously doubt that your xh has come out the other side yet. If he's still displaying confusion, etc., it sounds like he's still in depression and needs some assistance in the way of ADs.
His brain hasn't quite gotten settled down and he's really having a difficult time with numbers, etc. Do you know if he had issues with math as a teenager?
It appears you are going to have to work on his math issues for him in order to get what you need to support you and your children. He's truly still out there in some areas.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Not trying to hijack your thread just a question for Snodderly.husband texts me today, actually carried on a conversation with text messaging....he texted me for Thanksgiving also, wished me a happy one, I texted him back wishing him one as well, and wants to come see us at christmas.still living with the O/W..but these text msgs surprised me .I texted him this morning because it was snowing and it reminded me of him ....took him all day to ask me if it was still snowing and that is when the convo took place....not reading nothing into it....just wondering what could be going on....
IRMAC, He's having a moment of sanity. A lot of them will do this around a holiday because they do remember what it use to be like as a family unit. He could very well have been thinking of the great times he had w/you and your family and opted to text you to test the waters to see if you will return the message. Some do it to just remind us that they are still out there, not thinking how it hurts and reminds us of their absence. Some, for selfish reasons, hope that we will be friendly to them so that it will appease their guilt for what they've done....others, well...they aren't really thinking at all.
I personally would not read too much into his behavior. Treat him just as you would a friend and nothing more. Time will reveal to you what is going on w/him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I certainly don't think my ex is coming out of his MLC any time soon. Sorry if it sounded like that. I just wanted to know what others who have been through the whole thing had experienced. He is more confused than ever and can't seem to function logically at all.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
