Seriously though, I wonder if soleil's hubby is on this forum and he pieced together the things to do from the various threads on this forum and successfully db'd his marriage.
Basically I think the idea is this, follow the value. When you're pursuing someone, you are directly or indirectly communicating that this person has value and you want it.
When you stop pursuing it and move on with your life, you pretty much de-value (if that's even a word) that person so much that they aren't worth your time & effort. You basically raised your value to just as good or better.
Human nature: we want what we can't have.
If you're the LBS, reject your WAS, move on, start dating, live a great life. If they want you back, they will pursue you and you have to make them work for it - if you just give yourself easily, you screw up the value scheme - this person wasn't as valuable as I thought, I got them too easily, there was no effort involved.
And if they don't want you back, well I guess you have your answer there as well, move on with your life.
