Bear in mind that I don't know the entire situation but what prompted him to want to leave you?
I don't know whether in his mind he has left me. last I heard he was talking about a "pause".
Although I don't know for certain, some evidence and my intution suggest that he didn't want me to go to Europe, and he has stayed there so long, because a woman he was previously obsessed with (before we even met), is single again and he wanted to give it another shot, despite previously spending three years in unsuccessful pursuit of her.
Originally Posted By: robx
An affair is usually a symptom of another issue. Did he feel used and unappreciated while you were together?
I don't think so, but I sure did. I have been very affectionate with him.
Originally Posted By: robx
You mentioned in another post that he enjoyed it when people treated him nicely and flattered him and he didn't know they were doing it just to use him.
Could it be he was starved for this type of affection from you for a long time - again I can't mind read, I don't know the entire situation.
Did you ever treat him this way?
When you mentioned that you were hoping for a friendly separation so that he might still offer to pay for your dental bills, it sounded pretty much like what you had typed in that other post about people being nice to him to use him for what he has but in the way that you would be nice to him hoping that he would take care of your bills.
I'm was talking about people who were out to rip him off. I am not some new acquaintance who spots a guy with money and so decides to butter him up.
I am his wife, and he has done me wrong and betrayed me. I have medical needs here, not a desire for a new sports car. I do not have the amount of money I need to meet those pressing medical needs - he does - many times over. I do not consider that 'using him'.
