"He has my list. I only need to put my foot down. I am ready."
How ready?
How firmly can you step?
"the mail to her his passwords to get rid off whatever she gave him/is connected to her :gifts, tapes etc etc answer a few questions he avoids to change cars tell me he loves me wear his ring hug me and kiss me more"
While I understand the list.. I am not sure how or what a few of theses things will do to "move you forward". To a point I might question them all.
Why do you want her "address"?
His passwords I can understand. A marriage/relationship should be open.
I can again understand why you want him to give up the "gifts" but I really think you are "pointing" her out too much.
Your focus is "do something" for me. Show me you love me by acting the way I expect you to act. Again.. this is reasonable and expected.. but you have done this many times before only to be dissapointed. If you are doing this I personally feel you really need to be ready to put a foot down (Think Puppy from DB.com). You will have to take the "hard line". I feel very strongly about that. Maybe PDT needs to give you some pointers.. since I am the "old softy".
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
