Now more than ever, I really want a 'friendly' separation/divorce, especially because I really need his financial help right now.
He had offered to help me with my dental bills previously, I didn't know exactly how much that would cost though. I found out it adds up to the equivilent of the sticker price of a new economy car. I don't have that much cash and would be hard pressed to come up with that amount in the near future. He, on the other hand, can well afford it. Am I just dreaming that he might still want to help?
I would appreciate input about when and how to talk with him about this. Because I read Gnosis's excellent post, I know NOT to say "We need to talk."
Bear in mind that I don't know the entire situation but what prompted him to want to leave you? An affair is usually a symptom of another issue. Did he feel used and unappreciated while you were together?
You mentioned in another post that he enjoyed it when people treated him nicely and flattered him and he didn't know they were doing it just to use him.
Could it be he was starved for this type of affection from you for a long time - again I can't mind read, I don't know the entire situation.
Did you ever treat him this way?
When you mentioned that you were hoping for a friendly separation so that he might still offer to pay for your dental bills, it sounded pretty much like what you had typed in that other post about people being nice to him to use him for what he has but in the way that you would be nice to him hoping that he would take care of your bills.
Maybe I'm reading too much into this, if so please feel free to correct me.
I don't have that much cash and would be hard pressed to come up with that amount in the near future. He, on the other hand, can well afford it. 
