I had the most jacked up, insane conversation with my ex last night. She was all over the place.
It started out with her saying that OM will be staying at her place until Feb. until he goes to school or something. It then turned into " and if you're going to bring another woman around our kids I have a right to know who she is blah blah blah."
Uh....NO. I said you have no say in that, that is completely my call, I don't need to tell you a damn thing.
She seems to be getting worse. There were a couple of issues regarding lies and her words not matching anything she does I couldn't let slide. She brought this up and then completely contradicted herself in the next statement.
She said she wants to be civil (which lately things have been) and then went on to say how she wants to have more and better communication. I pointed out to her that her actions of last month totally went against what she just said she wanted. She was quiet.
There were times she had nothing to say and when she did, all she talked about was me thinking she was a bad mother and her trying to convince me that she does everything for the kids and only the kids.
I even heard "having OM makes me a better mother because now there are two people instead of one." I wanted to go nuclear on her a$$ at that point but didn't, I stuck to the issues.
At one point she even said to me "I'm having to learn all of this stuff." ( WTF!! She was actually right about that one!!!)
She also picked up on the fact that what I say to her makes her think about things and come up with an answer on her own. I heard, "you always say just enough, and you dance around things and never come out and say it." (ya think!! I might possibly do that so you will come up with the answer on your own silly)
The latest has me convinced the something about this truly has erased parts of her mind. I am still taken back by how twisted her way of thinking is and how it again seems to be getting worse.
LMAO T! Yours and mine sound so alike. We had a fun convo last night too.
He somehow is unemployed, but managed to take out the little girl for her birthday yesdterday and buy her a "beautiful diamond necklace" for her bday. Then, when I said I had to take D back to the dr. last night and his part was X amount, he wants to gripe and complain. omg.
I have also heard the you better not bring a man around "my" kids crap, yet he has the og around them when they are there. I found out that Sat. night he, my d, and og were all sleeping in the same bed... They are truly not sane. The irrationality of it all just floors me.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
oh trapt......you mustn't try to understand. Just take care of you and your kiddos and make sure they know that you love them and that they are your priority (which I know you do!)
All the other stuff, will just get you all twisted up.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
No, she would starve before she would ever eat any fish.
Who knows??
It's strange, she is EXTREMELY sensitive about anything to do with the kids or her past actions. She'll even say this to me.
She keeps reassuring me she is trying really hard and that I need to stop thinking she is a bad mother.(which is what I heard at the beginning of all this)but at the same time she will turn right around and say or do something totally off the wall.
The difference now is what I say really hits home with her at times. She seems to sort of listen again to certain things, but is totally clueless at the same time if that makes any sense.
I can hear her on the phone sometimes when I say something that really gets through. It's hard to describe but it sounds kind of like she has bad anxiety when I say something that she doesn't want to hear.
Yeah, I agree she is still lost, but she is making an effort in certain areas. It's a back and forth kind of thing.
Pretty sad to see, but what can you do? I'm just trying to be there for the kids, become better, and dig my way out of the financial sinkhole I'm in.
