To me the OM friendship/EA is a sympthom, a byproduct, of the deterioration of our relationship which I bear equal fault. I have had issues this year with anger and resentment. I have neglected my needs and pursued hers with semi-recless abandon. The result--I have been unhappy and unpleasant to be around some of the time. BTW, I express anger through passive aggression. I have a sharp tounge when riled up. I have come to understand my anger and discovery the extend of her unhappieness. Now, she has her issued too. But I can't do much about that right now, if ever. So I view the OM as a sympthom of a deeper problem, like a fever is to an infection. Sorry for the rant. Any thoughts?
You are spot on - OM is a symptom of a problem within your marriage, between you and and your wife. However, Mr. Wonderful, you just will NOT get to deal with those problems as long as she has another man with whom there are no problems except for you being in the way!
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