hoping for better times to come

[Coach]

MG, He's mind-reading telling you what you know, how you feel and think:

I know you would never start this off. I have been waiting to see if you would approach me to talk to me. I knew you wouldn't because it's not in your nature. Well seeings how we don't talk we just email each other to converse, I thought I would write a few things

Considerate
Appreciated
Interested
Devotion

You can't imagine the stress I have looking out for this family.
I know you haven't been attracted to me since DD1 was born. You don't have to say it I can see it.

I tried for so long to put it back together after DD1 was born, but I could see we were getting more distant. I was getting depressed and complacent. It took sometime to see things for how they are beause I did think it was just me. I was hoping you would make this humongous attempt since we last talked to show that you are serious, but nothing happened. I even would come upstairs to share the same bed. You don't wake me from the couch any more like you use to. So many things have changed and I sleep downstairs to no avail. I guess we need to decide were we go from here? do we sell the house in spring or summer? Do we live seperate from each other? You upstairs me downstairs? And keep the house? I just don't see either of us compromising

Validate his feelings, "I can see how you feel like ____________ when ____________ . However this is what I really think__________________."

He also thinks in negative/pessimistic terms - always, never.

He has filled in all the blanks for himself. Validate, empathise and then tell him how you really feel, what you think and want.

I was hoping you would make this humongous attempt since we last talked to show that you are serious, but nothing happened.

Ask him what he would have wanted to see happen.

I just don't see either of us compromising

Do you see it - he's projecting what you are going to do.

Listen very carefully for these clues and lead on this.

You can handle it.