I don't have the time to do it for you, but is there a trusted, disinterested 3rd party that you could get to give you an opinion on the line-by-line items? Often, and outsider has a better perspective, and can give you a gut-level "Are you CRAZY? What're you paying THIS for??" opinion.
At a minimum, I'd stop paying on her credit cards (and let her know), and if she has THAT many clothes, I would end all clothing allowance as well. If some are "not all today's fashions" (the poor dear), she can sell them at a consignment shop and use the cash to buy something newer. My daughters do it all the time.
