hoping for better times to come

[pearlharbr]

I'm at a loss too Maple. On one hand, he could really be reaching out to you. In that case I would listen and validate and leave it at that. OTOH, if he's having an affair then there's no point in trying to work out any issues unless OW is out of the picture because he can't truly work on your R while he's in another one.

I'm cynical so I assume it's the latter. But that's just me.