Maple, I've added your thread to my 'watch list' but I don't have the time to go over all your posts. I'll let R2C take the lead here and provide feedback on what I think from there.
Some quick thoughts: If there is no OW: The email he sent you and what you wrote on your first post highlights the problem... BOTH of you have some serious communications issues that have escalated to a crisis. You misread each other and this has built into resentment for each other. If this is the case then the two of you will need to share ideas on how to be understood. (Note the use of the word share... not 'talk' )
If there is an OW then this is just spew and he's looking for excuses to justify his actions. If this is the case then avoid the talk.
I wish I had more time to read everything and think about it.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
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