I've been reading your posts and just lurking....I had to write because I want you to know that you're not alone..my H has said the exact same things... *divorce is inevitable* (the exact phrase) yep it's been coming for years I haven't been happy for 10 years (imagine that his love child is 10 & I knew nothing about him) My H wants mediation..I won't go that route unless my attorney reads everything for me...I've been married 25 years and with him for 31...I'm not about to just hand him anything. My H also thinks OW is his soulmate.... You are definately not alone...they all say it..I never believed people here until it all started sinking in...they have a script...and they follow it...even if they appear sane, or act normal, or look as if they are doing the right thing...as my D17 says, "mom, what's he gonna say"...they are not going to tell us they are wrong, that they miss us, blah, blah, blah,... I understand you feel down because I do to at times, just not as often anymore...my H has been gone now for almost 2 years...rarely sees his kids...it's his loss...
I was always a fixer, I am learning patience and that I cant control everything anymore...I take my 50 % that went wrong but I never ran...I was willing to give it my all...he's the one who ran and never looked back...I told him once a while ago..."H, I hope she's worth it".....
There is a book...called The Script....I read it in a day..the MLCer really does have one....
Take Care....& you haven't failed....none of us have...
Treese
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
