Expect her to be in full on crazy mode. That way anything less is a piece of cake.
Don't sign anything legal. Don't respond to her about the papers if you get them. Tell her, "My lawyer will be handling that."
You can handle it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Now that I have this little bit of intel, what do I do now? I really don't wish to be served in the airport, coming home on R & R, with the chance that my boys will be there to see it. I have a whole range of emotions rolling around in my head right now. How in the world can someone be this evil? Please, help me with this. What does one do, that DOESN'T WANT to be D, when they know what I now know? I can't say anything to her, as my BIL gave me that info because he cares about me, and I don't want to betray that trust with him.
"embrace the suck" - Coach "don't go all "Melty Man" on us" - Puppy Let Go and Let God Finally "Got It" - 15 Jan 2010
The thing is, if she had told ME this, I would feel different, as I wouldn't believe her. But since she told her B, I believe it. Should I not tell her when my flight comes in, and take a cab home? I am really wound up right now. Heart going a mile a minute-fear/anxiety, the whole thing. Gotta think clear, and calm. I can do this, I can do anything. I can handle anything, I'm a Soldier dammit.
"embrace the suck" - Coach "don't go all "Melty Man" on us" - Puppy Let Go and Let God Finally "Got It" - 15 Jan 2010
I don't think the Marshalls office is going to do that. Once again use your chain of command. She's trying to bully you. Just prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for when it happens. The marshall just hands you some papers, you can't control it.
She could be using tactical deception on you.
Don't make predictions just be prepared.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Your boys will have no clue what it is -- just that some man gave their dad some papers. I would just smile and say "thanks! Have a wonderful day," hug your kids, and proceed with all the fun plans you have for them for the week.
SD, I'm a firm believer that God doesn't give us more than we can handle. In my sitch, things seemed to come in waves, and I used to wonder why that was. One day I got the revelation that had everything happened to me at once, I wouldn't have been able to endure it, and I think that's true.
All I've seen from you since you started posting here is a very worried "what is she going to do?" personae. I think God just threw you a bone, in that you've been forewarned about what she's going to do.
THANK Him for it, and use the foreknowledge to move on in a confident way. You'll likely have at LEAST 30 days to respond to it, if not more.
How much do you think it would irk your wife, if you responded as per the above? Will your wife be there? Maybe a "have a wonderful day" to the server, with a wink and a smile and a "Nice -- classy" to your wife, as you sweep your son up in your arms with a hearty laugh??
Soldier, if she has you served as you get off the plane, then there is nothing you can do about it. It is not classy at all but unfortunately we have no control over how people behave/act or what they choose to do. And you are right, you CAN do this and you CAN get through anything.
I was reading through this and thinking, geez, you're in a war zone you can handle this, and then I saw your I can handle anything line. Yes, you CAN handle this. You will because you have no choice. You can't control when, if, or how she serves you. This is why you have to focus on yourself.
You know what, you are all right. I am going to be fine. The initial shotgun blast is starting to wear off, and the reality is setting in. I don't think she will be there when I get off the plane, but if she is, I will merely accept the papers, place them in my backpack, and proceed to grab and squish my boys until my arms get tired. If she says anything about the papers, I will simply say "oh, that, I'll let my lawyer deal with that" "Now, B12, B 15, lets go have some fun!!!" Easier said than done, but I can do it. She wouldn't have the 'nads to show up for this.
Puppy, I know-2x4 to the side of my stupid head...I have to research the legality of me being served while on overseas orders. I know the SSCR act protects me, but not sure if it protects me from being served. Got some readin' to do.
"embrace the suck" - Coach "don't go all "Melty Man" on us" - Puppy Let Go and Let God Finally "Got It" - 15 Jan 2010
You know what, you are all right. I am going to be fine. The initial shotgun blast is starting to wear off, and the reality is setting in. I don't think she will be there when I get off the plane, but if she is, I will merely accept the papers, place them in my backpack, and proceed to grab and squish my boys until my arms get tired. If she says anything about the papers, I will simply say "oh, that, I'll let my lawyer deal with that" "Now, B12, B 15, lets go have some fun!!!"
