I think that's a huge thing I've come to realize. Who you surround yourself with can make you a different person, for the better or worse. It's a shame your X hasn't realized that yet, if she ever will.
I always wonder if they see us doing the opposite of them, and the peace we have, well usually :), if that will help them to realize their mistakes. Not my problem, I know I shouldn't think like that...But I think you really have to work on insulating yourself from the crazy and mean in your X; I know how tough that can be!
