Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Trent,
I am definitely grateful at where I am. This is crazy, I never would have thought he would actually be home! Its so good, but so hard. I also didn't think it would be so hard. I feel like I am a different person. When he left last night without telling me a thing, I normally would have lost it. But I even mentioned to my sister that it didn't bother me, and she said she could tell. It feels good to have made those changes in the last two months. Its nice to not worry about him and not need to know where he is every second of every day. I think he likes the new me too.

I still think you can detach a little more; you still seem skittish about provoking a negative reaction from him.

As for staying motivated, this is where the 3x5 card I talked about earlier would come in handy.

Just jot little notes as to your progress, so when you're feeling down you can pull out a reminder of how far you've come (and more importantly, how doing the job right will work out.)