Can I save my marriage?

[Ready2Change]

Like am I crazy or is this weird. Does he really think he can just move home and then try to move in to the OUR room without talking about it?

This is where a boundary is important.

When you....
I feel....
I want....

"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" Has a LOVE LETTER TECHNIQUE. Have you read this book? Are you familiar with the Love letter idea? If not, I highly recommend

"There is no way he is going to slide on into our bedroom again without a word.

If I hear you, you want H to talk about things. What boundaries can you put in place?

Now that he's home, does he just want to be friends? And stay here cause he feels inconvenienced at his sister's? Or is it his way of coming home just to stubborn and too full of pride to talk about it? How long do I let this go on? And how long does he just come and go as he pleases without having to tell me a thing?

Do not mind read. As long as he is repectful of YOU boundaries, let him be him. Set boundaries when appropriate.

Also, when it would normally be my day to watch the kids do we keep with taking full responsibility, transporting to sports, getting a babysitter, etc when its my days? Or do we go back to normal and share those things now that he's home?

It is important to ballance the parenting responsibilities. It is also important to ballance "Self time".