[quote=Wonderful!]I later called to tell her that in retrospect, I should have chosen my words more carefully. She was dismissive of the appology, but I felt it was necessary to thwart her and perhaps get her to focus on my good intention behind nothing more than a thoughtful gesture. Was this a good play.
You asked if this was a good play but didn't you get your answer from your wife's reaction? So why ask us when you knew already that it didn't work.
Trying to convince yourself otherwise?
Be a wussy and be treated like one - plain & simple: your wife seeked out a more masculine mate, wonder why that is? Some sort of sexual polarity shift happened, she became more masculine, more aggressive, more assertive, sometimes angry and you became more submissive, working harder to show her you'r worth it (which really worked didn't it?).
Hmmmm.... she's having an affair and yet you wasted time apologizing to her over the connotation of your words in a specific dialogue you had with her?
Was her apology to you about her affair warm & heartfelt? I'm interested to hear more about that.
