Can I save my marriage?

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Well I dunno what to do. There has been no R talk. He pretty much moved into the spare room suitcase and all. He brought home every last thing he had at his sister's house. Full on back in our home. But won't man up and talk about it. Its weird.

Last night he took S3 to a hockey game, came home and my sister and I had our "t.v" night so we were just hanging out. He said he had to go over to his buddies for a bit and left. Didn't tell me why or how long he'l be or anything. I took this as chance to make a 180. I would normally have drilled him but I just smiled and said "have fun!" S3 has been quite happy daddy is home again and when he came upstairs only to find that daddy left he lost it. I couldn't get him to quit crying so we called H on cell. H said he'd be home soon and goodnight to S3. He was happy then, and went to bed.

1am, H comes home and comes to my room. He wakes me up and asks how the boys were tonight. I told him S3 got over it and went to bed good. He made the comment "ya poor guy thought daddy was leaving again." I said "yes he's a smart little boy"

We had some basic conversation then H slid into the bed to talk more. More basic conversation. While pillow talking he rubbed my arm and back. Then I said I was super tired so he took the hint and asked for a hug. So i gave him a hug, but laying down it turned into a cuddle. While cuddling he said " I could just sleep here, I'm so tired" Finally got out of bed and went to the spare.

Like am I crazy or is this weird. Does he really think he can just move home and then try to move in to the OUR room without talking about it? There is no way he is going to slide on into our bedroom again without a word.

Now that he's home, does he just want to be friends? And stay here cause he feels inconvenienced at his sister's? Or is it his way of coming home just to stubborn and too full of pride to talk about it? How long do I let this go on? And how long does he just come and go as he pleases without having to tell me a thing?

Also, when it would normally be my day to watch the kids do we keep with taking full responsibility, transporting to sports, getting a babysitter, etc when its my days? Or do we go back to normal and share those things now that he's home?

SO CONFUSED!!!!