About the counseling- I have suggested it to him many times now, he keeps saying he'll do it, just doesn't have the money or time. I think it's a cop-out. Narcissists are the hardest people to get into therapy because they lack the humility to show up or listen to what the therapist has to say and apply it. Anyone hear about Tiger Woods? More and more I am disgusted with people. Affairs are everywhere. Meanwhile, I have, at my spouse's request, made a (non-exhaustive) list of things that would need to change in our relationship for it to work. I am hesitating on sending it- my therapist thinks I should. I just don't want to give him the impression that if he attempts these things it'll be like nothing ever happened, and even if I give him the disclaimer that it's just something to start a conversation about whether reconciliation is even possible, I have this feeling that he's going to get the wrong idea.
