Newbie (again)

[dday101798]

So this little exchange transpired after XW made inital contact this morning with "mornin!" and some small talk insued, then:

XW: did (cousin) tell you to stay away from me?
me: no. why
XW: just don't want you in trouble, but can't stop thinking about you!

[pause as my phone memory was full and had to delete messages]

XW: sorry
me: sorry for what?
XW: if that made you uncomroftable
me: no, not at all
me: the question on the table is what do you want to do
XW: whatever flows natural and feels right

I was walking back to my building, thinking, ok, this can no longer continue via text, nor even a phone conversation. If XW is proclaiming that she is willing to actually take the action and throw caution to the wind and work at a new relationship, that needs to be done in person. I need to hear this first hand, face to face. Then (and here's where puppy dog tails gets his treat) the boundry of OM being 100%, no ifs ands or buts about, GONE will be laid out. And we'll have to establish a transparency plan that ensures me of this.

Then, things will "flow" nice and slowly, casual outtings with the kids first while she clears her head of him. Progress will monitored for re-assurances that NC has been established, and yes, I like the idea that a letter be written, and approved by me, and mailed by me (and yes, I know his address so it will be going to the right place). Now, she opened up another can of worms in the fact she got him a job at her work. Well, guess what, she'll just have to get him out of a job there.

And once those assurances are established, we can then let that "natural" thing ride it's course like a normal relationship (that obviously has a more objective goal to it).

Thoughts, critisisms?