When I came home from work last night, D18 was crying. She and I had the longest most meaningful conversation we have had in quite some time. I am hoping to get closer to my kids during all this, and last night was a good start.
Both kids were at WAW apartment yesterday. Likely a good thing for them to see it right away. I slept surprisingly well last night (without taking sleeping pill) and woke up today feeling ok.
I have a busy day off planned and have promised myself that I will not make first contact with WAW. I doubt I will hear from her until she is here on Sunday. No real plans as to how to handle that day.
Attempting to "embrace the suck" starting today, and so far - not too bad.
You want to start learning how to be a man, protect your offspring.
Be there for them just like you did, offer the shoulder to cry on, the hugs that offer strength & security, tell them they can talk to you anytime they need to and let them know that you will always be there for them regardless of this situation and tell them that everything will be ok no matter what happens - give her your guarantee.
Be strong for them, get in the habit of being the best dad there is (and not by spoiling or gift giving), spend time with them, quality time, do things with them when their schedules allow for it(older kids do have lives of their own) and most importantly, you need to start living a great & happy life, kids learn from their parents. If you sit around being depressed about this situation, sad, lethargic, displaying no energy whatsoever, you will teach them to do the same in their own relationship.
You have life inside of you, never forget that. It's a gift, make use of that gift, don't squander it doing nothing. Be a great person, a happy person, the kind of person that rolls with the punchs, that gives as good as they get and doesn't fold under pressure.
You can do it.
Rob, you are in an absolute ZONE lately, buddy. Phenomenal, phenomenal post.
Yes, it's a rare sighting of the highly-coveted Puppy's Four Whistles Award.
