He never has, just "brought me home stuff," if he was out and about. And, if he traveled on his own, he brought gifts back for all of us, but they were SO (quick, get something at the airport!)!
I also think I'm guilty of the wrong gifts. Example: I asked him the other night about this speaker phone thing that would make his driving easier (on the phone constantly w/his drivers) that I bought him for xmas last year. The thing was quite pricey, and he opened it, showed appreciation for "the gift," but it's sitting in his nightstand drawer, still! My approach was, "H, I was putting away your socks today, and was reminded of the speakerphone. Did you forget we got it for you?" H says, "I told you multiple times that I don't want things like that. I could use a blue-tooth in my ear, too, but I don't. It's hard enough to hear in a truck, and I like to use a handset." Me, "Gosh, the only time I remember the topic coming up was when we talked about the blue-tooth earpieces (he thinks people look stupid walking around talking to people w/no evidence of a phone.) I didn't realize you didn't want ANY kind of the technology. Feel free to tell me next time if you don't like something I get you! I'm glad to take it back, exchange it, whatever..."
And, a positive example is... H told me about seeing our friend at the mall last xmas season (he and his wife own a fur store). And, about falling in love w/this shearling coat, but didn't love the price. I heard about this coat three different times, and he is NOT a hinter, so he must just have loved the coat. So, at next chance, off I go to the mall, buy the darned coat, and give it to him for xmas (and our anniversary - in Jan) since it was so expensive, and I knew he thought it was a LOT. He nearly fell over. LOVED the coat!!!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
