Wrong gift / Not worthy of gifts / What else? Maybe we're trying to read too much into this...
Sometimes the answer is so simple that we can't see it. Example: "I" am not a gift receiving person. Sorry, I'm not, but I do try show appreciation because I know it's expected. And if a gift is useful, I'll use it. I don't read too much into gifts I receive. I don't feel misunderstood and there is nothing wrong with my self-esteem WRT it. Go figure... I guess I am nuts!
Coach & Kalni: No disrespect intended and both of you could be right. In many other posts you're spot-on for many situations. All I'm doing is providing an alternative viewpoint from my perspective. Sometimes we read too much and become too analytical over the minutest things. I'm guilty of this too.
Let's remember the spirit of giving... it's to give freely and without expectation. The Expectation is what kills us. We spend a lot of time and thought into selecting the gift. We hope that this be exactly what the receiver wants and needs. Our expectation is that they will appreciate it, use it and make it a part of their life. When they don't we are disappointed. We feel like our efforts have been ignored, discounted and rejected.
So what do we do then? We analyze to see where we fell short when in fact the answer could be staring us in the face that "He's Just Not Into... Gifts."
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
