I agree we will have to have transparency to restore trust in our R, of course. The problem is this: Right now, my wife is checked out of our R. It does no good to come to her and ask her to work on restoring trust the R when she is not in the R. In fact, it does harm because it looks like pursuing and attempting to talk R both of which are DB no, nos. It also would appear to be controlling, a major turn off to anyone. I can't make her work on the R. I honestly ask, what else can I do under these circumstances? My solution has been to detatch from the the R problems and focus attention on myself. I am open to suggestions but I feel I am on the correct path.
