Donna--finding herself #37

[mishka422]

I had loved to collect ornaments throughout the year to celebrate milestones, match memories. Too many are about the old Us.Throw them away? Pack them into the attic? Send some over to him for his tree with his newly-chosen mate?

Give them to charity. Our church thrift store is full of Christmas decorations. That is where I'm sending all of my sentimental ones (except the personalized ones of course - those are going in the trash this year assuming I get any of them down from the attic! )

Donna, there is a real possibility that you are having a bout of seasonal depression. Who can blame any of us for feeling that way. Being sentimental. Feeling cheated out of something. It's natural, but you know it doesn't have to be that way. It will be what YOU decide you want it to be.

You have all the tools to turn your thoughts around. I know you have learned thought stopping, redirection, framing, all of that in therapy. Use it now. Reverse your thinking and make it about YOU, not about him, them, etc..

Donna, you weren't replaced. There is no one that could ever replace you. He has merely filled a space because he has selfish needs that have to be met for him to feel like a whole person. That has nothing whatsoever to do with you.

Get it? Got it? GOOD!

(((((((((((((((Donna))))))))))))))))))