Coping with Bi-Polar WAW

[CountingCrows]

This morning when W came over to the house, we made small talk for a few minutes. She mentioned that she had her IC appointment today, so I wrote her a check for the copay. When I handed the check to her, I told her calmly "The last weekly check ("allowance") that I will be giving you will be on Jan 1st. I will pay December's truck payment, but then you'll need to take over those and the insurance in January. Luckily, the truck payment isn't due until the 27th, so you'll have nearly two months before you'll need to pay it." W didn't act angry or anything, but I could tell it stunned her.

I told W that she had asked me to give her a month's notice before discontinuing the financial support, so I was doing as she asked. She remained calm, but was obviously panicking in her head, as she was taking in the reality of the situation. She asked about the televisions, and I told her she could take the bedroom TV if she wanted (27"), or she could haul out the 34" in my garage office. Didn't offer up the 34" in the living room, as it's S7's main TV for programs and Wii.

She mentioned that she didn't even have a bed (she's sleeping on her roommate's D6 bed right now). W had "loaned" out a very good futon mattress to a friend a while back and had asked for it back, but never went and picked it up. I told her that she could get in touch with friend and retrieve it.

Throughout the discussion, everything remained calm. We went into S7's room for me to say my goodbyes and then told W to have a good day and left for work.

I know that this severing of financial aid is going to put her in a VERY bad place, which will likely work against me. Our state/county is a community property place, so I could imagine her looking favorably towards D in order to have our property split up evenly, so she can survive. The reality is that with our outstanding debts (also split 50/50) far outweighing our assets, I don't think W will get what she might think she would out of it.

I'm afraid that desperation on her part will end up turning this into a very nasty scenario. But she's given me no indication whatsoever that she wants to work on our M or be a part of our family again. Therefore, I'm not going to continue to assist her financially, particularly when she is still in contact with OM.

I'm glad I finally had the guts to tell her that I'm cutting off the last of her support, but I'm scared of what's to come, and less hopeful than ever.