Newbie (again)

[dday101798]

Make sure you're not plan 'B.'

ohhh, absolutely. The ball is in her court to show me as she eludes to, I was 'Plan A' all along, but she lost sight of that.

Much like yesterday, I put the notion to make and mantain contact on her for the day. We went back and forth on a few messages until about 10am then everything stopped, minus a text I had to send around 1pm regarding S11's P.E. teacher emailing me that he's about to be serving a detention for not being prepared again for class and has not turned in one assignment all quarter. No reply.

As 8pm rolled around and no contact I got to thinking, 'well, either A) she's gotten cold feet B)she's afixed on clearing her mind of OM, or C) she's with OM. Either way, I said to myself it doesn't matter, if she wants this, she's the one to work for it, I can go in any direction I see fit. [and it feels really good to have that mindset by the way]

No sooner than I clear my head of that, XW calls. Turns out she had a chaotic day at work, got 'home' late, and had since getting home was dealing with the situation of S12 and the other kids's parents regarding getting her money back for the bicycle the kid try to sell him. What a mess that was.

so we worked together on that issue, than S11's school problems. Heh, the kid seems to have forgotten already what it's like to have dad AND mom tag team you when you slack off. Of course S12 refused to get on the phone as we still have yet to find out where exactly he got all the money to purchase this bike.

So, mainly an all business call, I wasn't about to probe to find out how things were going otherwise, she can tell me when she's ready or wanting to. It was getting late and she needed to do laundry and was just frustrated with the boys (and referencing how it sucked to be doing it 'alone') but had to go and get them ready for school today and all.

A few minutes after we hung up, her tone of frustration got the better of me and I didn't want her screaming at the boys, so I just shot a text 'hey, be calm but in control with them. Sorry I can't do more, but there's only so much I can do through a phone'. Not with intent to be cruel or anything, just a tap on the shoulder as reminder of not only how things are, but also what she said she misses. So, we'll see.